[bgpd] reference count the BGP instance

When a BGP instance is deleted with lots of routes and neighbors
it is possible for the peer rsclient queue to run after
bgp_delete has been called. This would lead to bgpd crashing,
see https://bugzilla.vyatta.com/show_bug.cgi?id=3436

The fix is to add reference counting to the BGP instance and defer
actual freeing until all references are gone.

This patch also fixes a memory leak where the self-reference
peer instance was being created but never freed.

The check in bgp_clear_route is no longer valid because it is possible
for it to be called when peer is in Deleted state during cleanup.
diff --git a/bgpd/bgp_route.c b/bgpd/bgp_route.c
index 01b3898..a44d47a 100644
--- a/bgpd/bgp_route.c
+++ b/bgpd/bgp_route.c
@@ -1562,6 +1562,7 @@
 {
   struct bgp_process_queue *pq = data;
   
+  bgp_unlock(pq->bgp);
   bgp_unlock_node (pq->rn);
   XFREE (MTYPE_BGP_PROCESS_QUEUE, pq);
 }
@@ -1611,6 +1612,7 @@
   
   pqnode->rn = bgp_lock_node (rn); /* unlocked by bgp_processq_del */
   pqnode->bgp = bgp;
+  bgp_lock(bgp);
   pqnode->afi = afi;
   pqnode->safi = safi;
   
@@ -2843,19 +2845,6 @@
    */
   if (!peer->clear_node_queue->thread)
     bgp_clear_node_complete (peer->clear_node_queue);
-  else
-    {
-      /* clearing queue scheduled. Normal if in Established state
-       * (and about to transition out of it), but otherwise...
-       */
-      if (peer->status != Established)
-        {
-          plog_err (peer->log, "%s [Error] State %s is not Established,"
-                    " but routes were cleared - bug!",
-                    peer->host, LOOKUP (bgp_status_msg, peer->status));
-          assert (peer->status == Established);
-        }
-    }
 }
   
 void